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Generations in Harmony is a parent learning to master the do’s and don'ts of how to
relate to their child now as a married adult.
revolutionary new course for women, 2. Expectations: We all have unspoken expectations of
led by the legendary Dina Friedman. what parents should be doing for their married
The topic? Creating and maintaining a children and what married children should be doing
for the parents. When we aren’t aware of those
harmonious relationship with your expectations it can create unnecessary distress for all
married children. We sat down family members. Parents and children alike need to
identify those expectations and learn how to adjust
with Dina to get a sneak preview them. Having this skill will save relationships and
into her course. greatly enhance the parent-child connection.
3. Choices: Parents need to learn the art of how to allow
the child to make their own choices. This can be
Thank you so much for your time, Dina! So what inspired you extremely difficult – especially when watching your
to create this program? child make a bad choice with ill effects. Often, parents
Firstly, thank you so much for having me. I’m thrilled to be are unsure when to step back and when to intervene,
debuting this course, as it will bez”H fill a real need. When I and if necessary, how to intervene effectively.
married off my first child 10 years ago, I remember feeling 4. Red flags: What happens when a parent notices a red
apprehensive and insecure. It was my number one priority to flag – either in the new marriage dynamics or in their
maintain my loving relationship with my child and my new own child’s behaviors when adjusting to marriage?
child-in-law – but I was so unsure how to go about it What should parents do if they notice alarming
successfully. I had seen so many married children accuse behavior in the new child-in-law? What if the
parents of mixing in, of hurting them – and I wanted to avoid child-in-law is not who they expect him or her to be?
that happening to me. The problem was that I couldn’t Here too, parents need to learn when it's appropriate
determine when a comment that was well intentioned was to intervene and when they need to allow the couple
mixing in or was actually helpful. Was offering to help their experience and how to come to a place of peace.
considered meddling or was it supportive? Was saying ‘no’
when I really couldn’t do something an act of rejection – or Who would most benefit from this course?
would it be appreciated as my genuine limitation in the Mothers marrying off children who care about the couple’s
moment? successful transition into their marriage and young
As a life coach I have seen cases both ways – parents upset married women who want to maintain an open and
at married kids and married kids upset at parents – with harmonious relationship with their parents and in-laws,
neither side sure how to resolve the issue. I realized that there while protecting their own healthy marriage relationship.
is a real need for a step by step guide to help parents and Is it advisable for mothers and young marrieds to sign up
married children alike understand the facts of what changes together?
when a child leaves home for marriage, what are the typical Absolutely! That would be the most effective, as this
problems both sides deal with and what are guaranteed series addresses both the mother and the daughter. In
solutions. In fact, what if parents and children knew what to fact, we have a special package price for mothers and
do to prevent many of these problems in the first place? It’s daughters who want to join together.
a program I wished I could have had for myself. It’s a
program that I wish my children would have had. What can someone expect to walk away with having
finished the course?
So what are some of the typical problems parents or children
encounter? When you complete Generations in Harmony, you will
have a clear understanding of all the changes to the
1. Dynamic: There are many shifts that happen in the family dynamics that occur when a couple gets married.
parent-child dynamic, depending on what the You will walk away with a mindset and practical tools that
relationship was like before the child left home. There will prevent many of the typical problems that happen.
are two typical extremes. If the relationship was solid, You will learn when it is appropriate to let things go and
then both the parents and child go through a certain how to feel at peace even when things seem less than
loss. This brings a whole lot of feelings with it for both ideal, and you will learn when to intervene – and how to
the parent and child. If the relationship was full of do that effectively.
conflict and misunderstandings, this might lead to the
child feeling free at last to create their own safe home This sounds like a must-have program for every mother
and to be less interested in the parent. That would marrying off children, and for every young married who
bring a whole host of emotions to the parent that could cares about maintaining love and harmony in the broader
be extremely challenging. There is also the challenge of family circle. How can I sign up for the course?
helping a new person integrate into a new family. That To join, and for more information, go to
is its own journey that can bring up a mix of emotions dinafriedmanacademy.com/generations or call
as both parties learn about each other. Another 718-285-3970. Don’t miss out! The program begins
significant dynamic change that needs to occur is the on November 7th!
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